Under the Hood

EP 15 (*BONUS*): How To Get Your Freak On After Kids

• Season 1 • Episode 15

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Many parents assume that if they aren't "in the mood," something is wrong with them or their relationship. Usually, though, it’s because it’s just really hard to find your libido under piles of laundry and sleep deprivation. In this bonus episode of Under the Hood, we’re sharing a conversation that Dr. Rebecca had as a guest on Slate’s Care and Feeding podcast about the messy reality of sex and intimacy after kids. This is an honest (and sometimes hysterical) look at why desire can disappear in those early parenting years, and how to start finding your way back to your partner - and yourself - again.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why not being in the mood is often about nervous system overload, not a broken relationship
  • The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (and the importance of a longer runway)
  • How a well-timed whisper can totally change the tone in your relationship

Tune in if you’ve ever thought:

  • I love my kids, but if one more person touches me today, I’m gonna lose it.
  • Why is my partner ready to go the second the kids leave the house…but I’m just here thinking about the bills?
  • How do I stop feeling like sex is one more thing on the to-do list.
  • Does scheduling sex means the spark is gone for good?

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